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The Hows of Love: Teen Clash barkada shares nuggets of wisdom on romance

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Liezel dela Cruz

In the coming-of-age series “Teen Clash,” a group of campus kids navigates love, friendship, family, and music. So, it just makes sense that the cast members know a thing or two about these topics. Let’s begin with the so-called many-splendored thing. In these episodes of “The Hows of Love,” the barkada answers random questions about relationships – and you’ll be amazed by their words of wisdom.<div><iframe allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share" allowfullscreen="" frameBorder="0" height="444" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/j1TYUNOe_90" title="The ‘Hows of Love’ with Teen Clash’s Aljon, Jayda, Markus, Gail, and Ralph" width="789"></iframe></div>In the first video with Jayda Avanzado, Aljon Mendoza, Markus Paterson, Ralph Malibunas, and Gail Banawis, they were asked their opinion on the popular saying “Every day should feel like Valentine’s Day with your partner.”Jayda agrees, relating it to consistency. She added that everyday could feel special when you speak your partner’s love language and listen to the needs he/she communicates. And it doesn’t have to be a grand gesture all the time. However, it seemed Jayda and Aljon do not see eye to eye on this issue, as the latter emphasized, “Hindi naman kailangan everyday ma-feel ang Valentines sa isang relationship kasi hindi naman all the time magiging happy kayo. Meron ding mga times na may problema kayo or hindi kayo okay. Pero, ang importante do’n, kahit may challenge, nagagawa ninyo together.” He agrees with Jayda about speaking one’s love language on a daily basis, though. We move on to the next dilemma, which is having a lot of ‘clashes’ or competition in a relationship, to which Ralph reacted, “Dapat walang lamangan.” Jayda seconded, “You have to be happy for each other’s success. Everyone has his or her own personal journey and personal growth. If you have a partner, I think it’s important to be there in whatever stage they are in their lives.” From the viewpoint of a dude, Markus mentioned the male ego, implying that men tend to feel insecure when their partner becomes more successful than them. In response, Jayda acknowledged that it’s a natural human reaction, but what the couple could do is talk it out so to avoid creating cracks in the relationship. “Nagiging toxic siya kapag hahayaan mo lang ‘yun to kind of control how you see the relationship, and once you see them as ka-kompitensya ko ‘tong tao na ‘to, when in reality dapat kakampi n’yo ang isa’t isa. Even if ‘pag may problema kayo, it’s you against the problem, not you against each other,” she pointed out. Gail added that partners must be each other’s greatest cheerleader, “Baka naman if kunwari mas umaangat ‘yung isang jowa compared to the other one just in a certain period of time, you could use that as an inspiration to do better. Kasi it’s a partnership. You’re a team.”Next, we’re digging up the past. When asked how to address troubling issues in a partner’s past, Ralph acknowledged that acceptance may not happen overnight. “I think it’s a process. Hindi naman natin pwedeng i-invalidate ‘yung nararamdaman niya.” However, he clarified that a couple must focus on the present and future, “Tanggapin mo na lang kung sino siya. Kasi, at first, minahal mo naman siya. At ipagpatuloy n’yo na lang ‘yung meron kayo. Enjoy the love, love, love!”Moving forward, the group shared their opinion about friends having a say in the relationship, which, according to Markus, depends on the level of friendship. If it’s someone who has known every single piece of you, then, it won’t hurt to trust their comments. “If they see flaws and you’re not working, you can’t hide everything. I say, yeah, you should listen to your friends because at the end of the day, if it’s that level of deepness with your friends, they’ll only want to look out for your well-being,” he underscored. Jayda further discussed, “You have to understand na iba din kasi ‘yung mata ng tao from the outside looking in on a relationship. Kasi nga when you’re in a relationship and you’re in love, sometimes it can cloud your judgment.” Therefore, it’s important to listen to your friends’ opinions but make sure to decide based more on what you know and feel. Backing it up, Aljon pressed, “Makikinig ka pero at the same time, alam ko kasi ‘yung makakabuti sa akin.”To cap it off, they said their best love advice to viewers, which boils down to having a good amount of trust, communication, and acceptance; and, as Markus told, “Cherish the relationship and find a way to make it work.” Know that love is a choice.<div><iframe allow="accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share" allowfullscreen="" frameBorder="0" height="444" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/g27wYZEfRyo" title="The ‘Hows of Love’ with Teen Clash’s Kobie, Andi, Bianca, and Zach" width="789"></iframe></div>In the next video, it’s Andi Abaya, Kobie Brown, Bianca de Vera, and Zach Castañeda’s turn to act as our love gurus. The first scenario was about dealing with differences in a healthy relationship considering the partners are polar opposites. One word: compromise. Bianca reminded us that love is beyond ‘kilig’ as it also entails sacrifices and acceptance. For Kobie, it’s better to get straight to the point and communicate your likes and dislikes. But, as Andi tackled, there’s no need to change who you are just to fit into the relationship. “You don’t need to change these differences kasi sometimes ‘yun din ‘yung kung sino ka as a person. There will be times that you really have to communicate with your partner or loved ones. That’s when trust builds. That’s when you show na you really care for each other.” Have you heard of meeting halfway? Trust Andi, it works. What’s the new generation’s take on courting a girl and winning over her parents? Andi, Kobie, Bianca, and Zach consider themselves old-fashioned in that they believe in vintage ‘ligaw’ principles. Therefore, winning the family is non-negotiable. “You need to gain their trust also and you show them that you’re worth it,” said Zach, to which Bianca added, “Kung nirerespeto mo ‘yung mahal mo, you should also respect ‘yung mga taong nagpalaki sa taong ‘yun. ‘Yung parents niya, they’ve seen the girl/boy grow up from a baby. Kung ano man siya ngayon, kung ano man ‘yung minamahal mo with this person, it’s because of his/her parents. So, may utang na loob ka talaga dapat sa mga magulang, and you should respect that.”For the family-oriented Andi, parents don’t have to be involved in the relationship but they must at least be aware of who their kid is dating, “Gusto ko din ma-feel nila na okay ako with this person.” Besides, she believes courtship isn’t just a one-time stage, rather it reflects what a guy is willing to give in the relationship. Though courting a girl’s parents isn’t a trend in the UK where he grew up, Kobie still treasures its importance. For him, it’s about proving to the girl&#x27;s parents that he can be trusted. We hear a lot about zodiac compatibility or analyzing astrological charts to predict a relationship’s success. Interestingly, these youngsters don’t completely rely on these beliefs to judge the relationship and person right away. For them, the effort to connect is more important. The world feels seemingly more connected thanks to the internet, so naturally, Gen Z-ers have found a new trend in dating anchored on online apps. While Bianca and Zach acknowledge successful online love stories, they also warn people to be wary of the dangers of online dating such as falling for a poser. Bianca further tipped, “Don’t fall in love with potential kasi sabi nga ng iba, sa una lang masaya, kasi sa una mo lang talaga napapakita ‘yung good side mo.” Interestingly, for a generation raised in a fast-paced world, they’d rather want to take it slow in dating.On brandishing the relationship on social media, they think it’s perfectly fine as long as it’s aligned with the couple’s dynamic. But, sometimes it’s also better to keep things private. When asked their love advice to the viewers, Zach passed on the lesson he picked up from his parents’ failed marriage, which is to keep the relationship anchored on trust. Andi also imparted that conflict is inevitable. A couple normally goes through ups and downs, “at the end of the day, choose to resolve it.”Bianca keeps it simple: “Before picking up the pieces of a shattered person, make sure that you are whole.” It basically means working on yourself first before committing to another person.What’s the best love tip you’ve learned from the “Teen Clash” barkada?

The stars of “Teen Clash” prove how smart they are when it comes to love and relationships! 