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Could you stay friends with an ex? Here’s what Kapamilya stars think!

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Liezel dela Cruz

After a break up, should you pick up the good and throw out the bad for the sake of friendship, or impose a total no contact rule? Your favorite Kapamilya stars weigh in!For ex-<a href="https://ent.abs-cbn.com/pbbotso">Pinoy Big Brother Otso</a> housemate Kiara Takahashi, even reconnecting with an ex takes the right timing and boundaries. “Kunyari, after ten years, may sarili na kayong pamillya at okay na kayo. Kumustahan pero may limitations pa rin talaga. Dapat may boundaries pa rin kasi respeto rin sa present partners.”Lou Yanong dropped a straightforward ‘no.’ Being friends with an ex sounds so tricky, scary, and complicated she’d rather not risk it. “Kasi nabigay n’yo na ‘yung purpose n’yo sa isa’t isa. Pwedeng friends or civil, pero keeping in touch, baka mamaya mag-dig in pa kayo ng hole. Kung worth it, why not? If you’re ready to dig deep but if you’re not and you can’t commit, bye.”Sky Quizon went a little romantic talking about “unloving” the ex, which he said is impossible, “You never unlove someone lalo na if you have shared special moments, special days, special years with that person. Hindi naman ‘yun mawawala sa puso mo.”So if you decide to befriend history, know that it requires a mature sense of self-control, “Kasi hindi naman mawawala ‘yung pag-ibig sa puso mo. Better yet, siguro, when the time is better like ten years from now. But at least remain civil para no hate, para kung magtagpo man kayo sa isang mall, you can say ‘hi,’ para wala ding galit na naiiwan sa’yo.” The short answer, therefore, is ‘no,’ “Forgive but I don’t think it’s best to remain friends.”If the past got so messy and devastating, Ashley del Mundo would rather not look back. She said it depends on what happened.“<a href="https://ent.abs-cbn.com/tbmv2022">The Broken Marriage Vow</a>” star Brent Manalo thought so, too, “Kung sobrang toxic ng relationship niyo, anong point kung magiging friends pa kayo after? How would you work out as friends?”<a href="https://ent.abs-cbn.com/pbbs10">PBB Kumunity Season 10</a> celebrity housemate and volleyball superstar Alyssa Valdez would also look into how the relationship ended. But even if the breakup was mutual, she’d rather just be civil. Same thoughts from “<a href="https://ent.abs-cbn.com/tbmv2022" style="color:rgb(7, 130, 193);font-family:sans-serif,Arial,Verdana,&quot;trebuchet ms&quot;;font-size:13px;font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;font-weight:700;letter-spacing:normal;orphans:2;text-align:left;text-decoration:underline;text-indent:0px;text-transform:none;-webkit-text-stroke-width:0px;white-space:normal;word-spacing:0px">The Broken Marriage Vow</a>” star Empress Schuck, who clearly draws a line between being just polite and being mates. “Kasi ‘pag sinabi mong friends, pwede kayong mag-catch up minsan, mag-kumustahan minsan, and I don’t think I believe in that. Civil is, for me, you’re okay with each other. Naka-move on na parehas, you don’t have to catch up. For me, mas okay ‘yung ganun at mas respectful sa kanya-kanyang current relationships.”Beauty queen and <a href="https://ent.abs-cbn.com/pbbs10" style="color:rgb(7, 130, 193);font-family:sans-serif,Arial,Verdana,&quot;trebuchet ms&quot;;font-size:13px;font-style:normal;font-variant:normal;font-weight:400;letter-spacing:normal;orphans:2;text-align:left;text-decoration:underline;text-indent:0px;text-transform:none;-webkit-text-stroke-width:0px;white-space:normal;word-spacing:0px">PBB Kumunity Season 10</a> ex-housemate Samantha Bernardo revealed she’s still friends with an ex, “Pero hindi na to the point na sobrang close pa rin kayo at sobrang best friends. Depende na rin siguro sa nabuo n’yong relationship.” She also has an ex-boyfriend whom she thinks she’d never speak with again because “siya naman nag-block sa akin.” So based on these experiences, she thinks it’s fine to be friends as long as you’re aware of the limitations, “As long as you know pa rin who you are at alam mo pa rin ‘yung boundaries mo as a person, I think there’s nothing wrong with that.”“<a href="https://ent.abs-cbn.com/viralscandal">Viral Scandal</a>” star Louise Abuel likewise believes it depends on what caused the breakup. Simple rule: third party means it’s not worth reconnecting “kasi sinaktan n’yo ang isa’t isa” but valid reasons like prioritizing the career or studies may still open the doors to friendship.Some like <a href="https://ent.abs-cbn.com/squadplus">The Squad Plus</a>’ Anji Salvacion will choose to treasure the bond and respect, “Sayang din naman ‘yung nabuo ninyong bond. Why not still continue the friendship? Kasi for me, as a person, I really value friendships. I don’t like na may kailangan ako o may iniiwasan ako sa isang group of friends kung nandun ‘yung ex ko.”<a href="https://ent.abs-cbn.com/pbbs10">PBB Connect</a> housemate Ralph Malibunas thought the blast from the past can spark drama and ruin the present, so it’s a ‘no’ for him, “Siguro ‘pag in a relationship ka, hindi na dapat kaibigan bilang respeto na lang sa ka-relationship.” But if you’re single and has fully healed, then maybe you can give friendship a shot, “Siguro kung wala na talagang feelings at tanggap n’yo naman sa isa’t isa na magkaibigan na lang kayo at nakikita n’yo naman ang isa’t isa bilang friends, okay lang naman po ‘yun.”Likewise, Russu Laurente’s number one policy is to make sure no one gets hurt in the process, not the exes and especially not the present partners. “As long as wala kayong nasasaktan, pwede kayong maging magkaibigan pero ‘pag may nasaasaktan kayo, stop n’yo yan. Kasi alam naman natin na ang selos andiyan talaga.“ He added that it would be better to ask for consent from your current beau, and also consider whether or not it was a healthy breakup.Crismar Menchavez answered “no” but not in a salty way, “When I say you can’t be friends with your ex, I’m not saying kalimutan mo siya o ipagtabuyan mo siya. All I’m saying is if you’re in a relationship, at nag-uusap kayo ng ex mo, it doesn’t sit right with anyone.” You may greet the ex ‘hi’ when you bump into each other and leave it at that, “Pero yung nagre-reach out kayo sa isa’t isa, like friendship talaga, it’s something that you have no control. Kasi ‘yung selos nandiyan lang.”“<a href="https://ent.abs-cbn.com/hesintoher">He’s Into Her</a>” star Vivoree Esclito would keep it simple: “Siguro casual na lang or civil, basta no bad blood.”For Jane Oineza, a platonic relationship with a former flame is neither required nor forbidden. “Kung kaya naman na hindi masira ‘yung relationship and if nagkaroon naman kayo ng closure, naayos n’yo naman, or maayos naman ang pagkakahiwalay n’yo, why not. Also, hindi naman siya requirement. Nasa atin naman ‘yan kung paano tayo makaka-move on or ano ‘yung makakabuti para sa atin.”You can be acquaintances with an old lover but be sure you’re not “marupok” enough to open old wounds, said Sue Ramirez. “It’s okay to be friends with your ex if really there’s nothing there anymore. Kumbaga, na-close n’yo na pareho ‘yung doors n’yo. Pero kasi siyempre baka mag-trigger pa ng something na hindi ine-expect, well kaya naman siguro nakakabuo ng second chances dahil sa ganyan, pero I don’t see anything wrong with being friends with your ex.”From the viewpoint of the young and NBSB “Bola-Bola” star Francine Diaz, you can befriend the ex without expecting a major comeback, “Ako po walang ex pero huwag naman sana ako magkaroon ng ex. Siguro, okay lang pero huwag naman ‘yung kung paano kayo dati kasi given na may history na kayo at kung meron kang bagong boyfriend or girlfriend ngayon, siyempre unfair naman yun sa bago mong partner. Siguro okay lang kung friend ka pero huwag naman ‘yung super close na may chance pa kayo magkabalikan.”Jeremy G thought it’s not a crime to be buddies with a past sweetheart, although it’s not also black and white, “Depende rin kung paano kayo nag-end. Sa tingin ko hindi naman bawal, but I think it depends on how you talk about it and see how comfortable you are with each other after ng relationship n’yo.”What’s your take on this, Kapamilya?

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