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Kapamilya stars spill things they consider as red flags in a friendship 

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Liezel dela Cruz

We often hear about red flags in a romantic relationship. But, this time, let’s talk about the indicators of an unhealthy friendship.In this video, Kapamilya stars share the warning signs of a toxic friendship, and they are painfully accurate.You know what they say: If they gossip about other people, chances are they gossip about you, too. So, listen to how somebody you just met talks about their acquaintances. Shanaia Gomez schools us on this topic: “If they are already nagchi-chismis ng mga secrets or private things kahit hindi kayo close, like, if you’re not best friends pero they’re telling you things that are kinda secretive, ‘Ay, alam mo si ganito, ganyan,’ the truth is if they are saying that to you, then they are saying stuff about you to other people.”Jordan Andrews seconded, saying when the core of your first conversations is other people’s skeletons, “It’s just going to be a matter of time that it’s you they’re talking about to a new friend naman.”“When they talk about other people behind their back” signals caution for Dimples Romana. The same goes for her <a href="https://ent.abs-cbn.com/THEIRoNHEART">The Iron Heart</a> co-star Richard Gutierrez, who doesn’t like people talking bad things about another person.As they say, the more meaningful friendships revolve around healthy conversations such as about your goals, and not other people’s business. Maxine Trinidad adds, “I don’t want to be friends with you just because we want to judge other people. I want to build a healthy relationship, a healthy friendship.” Especially when they can’t say those nasty things to the subject’s face, you better be looking for other connections.While we don’t want to be judgmental, sometimes it pays to be cautious of a person’s past. After all, history doesn’t lie, as Rob Blackburn puts it, “that is an indicator ng mga past actions and character niya.”The way they keep your secrets says a lot about them, too. Trust is everything, according to Gabb Skribikin, who experience friendship betrayals before, and obviously it still burns.Just like in romantic relationships, narcissistic behavior is also a bad omen in friendships. Meg Imperial doesn’t want to be stuck with friends who only talk about themselves but never ask what you’re doing, “Ayokong makinig nang makinig. It’s supposed to be a conversation.”Jenny Miller would have to agree, adding, “’Yung mayabang… ‘yung pinagmamalaki na lahat meron siya… Ibibida lahat tungkol sa sarili niya”In Pamu Pamorada’s real talk, she calls it “pabida” or “’yung siya lang magaling.”Alyssa Muhlach believes a friendship can thrive even if you have different values, but it becomes a red flag when they don’t respect your own, “I actually don’t mind. I have friends na hindi kami pareho ng values pero it’s an understanding na walang pilitan. Ikaw, if you believe in that, ako, this is what I believe in.” She says respect is one reason the <a href="https://ent.abs-cbn.com/2good2betrue">2 Good 2 Be True</a> cast worked well. Loyalty is a non-negotiable for Hyubs Azarcon. Nobody wanted to be friends with a traitor or someone “na ilalaglag ka ‘pag nakatalikod ka.” Remember that betrayal is poison.At the end of the day, as Meryll Soriano strongly believes, trust your instincts.

Narcissistic behavior, backstabbing and more – check out the warning signs of a toxic friendship according to these Kapamilya stars.