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‘Know what you deserve’: Iza Calzado recalls being in a toxic relationship before

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<div class="embed-wrap"><figure data-feedback="fb:likes,fb:comments"><img src="https://sa.kapamilya.com/absnews/abscbnnews/media/2021/life/03/11/20190912-100-years-phil-cinema-35.jpg"/><figcaption>Iza Calzado at the celebration of 100 years of cinema at Sine Sandaan at the New Frontier Theater in Quezon City in this September 12, 2019 file photo. <em>Mark Demayo, ABS-CBN News</em></figcaption></figure></div><p>MANILA -- Before finding the man of her life, Ben Wintle, veteran actress Iza Calzado admitted being stuck in a “toxic” relationship in the past and getting blinded by her attachment to love. </p><p>In “Paano Ba ‘To” vlog series of host Bianca Gonzales, Calzado gave her take on why women stay in a bad relationship as she shared some of her experiences. </p><p>Calzado admitted she was madly in love with that person at the time that she took for granted the red flags in their relationship. </p><p>“When I entered the relationship, I thought I was strong. In the relationship before that, ako pa nga &#x27;yung nang-iiwan, may ganun. And then I met somebody I was madly in love with. And I knew after several months parang it was getting toxic,” she said. </p><figure class="op-interactive"><iframe height="315" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/onR7V2dKtLQ?enablejsapi=1" width="560"></iframe></figure><div class="iwantbar">Watch more in <a href="//www.iwantv.com.ph/">iWantv</a> or <a href="//tfc.tv/">TFC.tv</a></div><p>But despite this, the award-winning actress revealed she got more attached whenever her former partner pushed her away. She even ignored what her friends were telling her. </p><p>“The more toxic it was, the more I was attached to him. The more he pushed me away, the more I wanted to be with him. The more challenged I became to prove to myself, to everybody kasi eventually people were verbalizing na that they didn&#x27;t like him for me,” Calzado shared. </p><ul class="op-related-articles">	<li><a href="https://news.abs-cbn.com/entertainment/02/16/21/from-ellice-to-brandy-iza-calzado-fulfills-romcom-dream-after-20-years-in-the-biz">From Ellice to Brandy: Iza Calzado fulfills romcom dream, after 20 years in the biz</a></li></ul><p>The 38-year-old Kapamilya star disclosed that she was also insecure during those times which prompted her to even check her partner’s personal messages on the phone. </p><p>“I was very insecure but because I was being given reasons to be insecure. Nagkataon pa with this guy, alam mo &#x27;yung mga guys na ma-check out ng women, tapos masabi ng things. So lalo akong nai-insecure then umabot ako sa point na tumitingin ako sa phone,” she divulged. </p><p>“‘Yung tumitingin ako sa messages. Nagpakababa ako. At saka tipong &#x27;pag may lalapit na babae, makikipagusap lang, naka-dagger look na &#x27;ko. The girl is not flirting pero feeling ko iiwanan na niya ko for that person. Umabot sa ganun,” Calzado added. </p><p>Asked why she stayed in the relationship? Calzado bared it was the same kind of drama she witnessed in her family growing up. </p><p>“For me, that drama was familiar, that is what I grew up with. There was drama in our home... I was attached, because that was what I thought love was like. Because that&#x27;s what love was like in our home growing up,” said Calzado, who also made it clear she was not physically abused by her former partner. </p><ul class="op-related-articles">	<li><a href="https://news.abs-cbn.com/entertainment/02/13/21/in-conversation-ian-veneracion-iza-calzado-on-falling-in-love-with-each-other-onscreen">In conversation: Ian Veneracion, Iza Calzado on falling in love with each other onscreen</a></li></ul><p>The star of ABS-CBN’s series “Ang Sa’yo Ay Akin&#x27;&#x27; went on to debunk the romantic idea of one completing another&#x27;s life. Calzado claimed it is dangerous to think that you need someone to complete you. </p><p>“It&#x27;s a romantic idea. It&#x27;s so nice to hear -- one person, another person in this world will make you complete, will fill you. Sometimes parang you&#x27;re always searching for something to fill that void, that hole. Pero it&#x27;s not true. The only person that can complete you is you. And, of course, the divine,” she explained. </p><p>In her parting message to the letter sender, Calzado stressed the value of self-love and knowing what you deserve, especially in love which she described as a battlefield. </p><p>“You deserve so much more. Know what you deserve and never settle. Self-love. You have to prioritize yourself above anyone else. You are that main character of this movie,” the actress quipped. </p><div><strong>Related videos:</strong></div><figure class="op-interactive"><iframe allow="autoplay; fullscreen" frameBorder="0" height="100%" id="ivsplayer01" scrolling="no" src="https://player.ivideosmart.com/ivsplayer/v4/dist/html/iframe-src.html?iframeid=ivsplayer01&amp;key=e8c22c015ca9eafa76f1e3edfa03c603&amp;spid=3001339&amp;vid=1637773" width="100%"></iframe></figure><div class="iwantbar">Watch more in <a href="//www.iwantv.com.ph/">iWantv</a> or <a href="//tfc.tv/">TFC.tv</a></div><figure class="op-interactive"><iframe allow="autoplay; fullscreen" frameBorder="0" height="100%" id="ivsplayer01" scrolling="no" src="https://player.ivideosmart.com/ivsplayer/v4/dist/html/iframe-src.html?iframeid=ivsplayer01&amp;key=e8c22c015ca9eafa76f1e3edfa03c603&amp;spid=3001339&amp;vid=1637776" width="100%"></iframe></figure><div class="iwantbar">Watch more in <a href="//www.iwantv.com.ph/">iWantv</a> or <a href="//tfc.tv/">TFC.tv</a></div>

<p>Before finding the man of her life, Ben Wintle, veteran actress Iza Calzado admitted being stuck in a “toxic” relationship in the past and getting blinded by her attachment to love. </p>

Before finding the man of her life, Ben Wintle, veteran actress Iza Calzado admitted being stuck in a “toxic” relationship in the past and getting blinded by her attachment to love.