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Myra Pasa

<div><span class="fr-img-caption fr-fic fr-dib" style="width:950px"><span class="fr-img-wrap"><img src="https://od2-image-api.abs-cbn.com/prod/editorImage/1718351015507Deo-Cabrera-06142024.jpg" style="width:950px" class="fr-fic fr-dib" alt=" Deo Cabrera. Cabrera/Instagram"/><span class="fr-inner" style="text-align:left"><span id="isPasted" style="color:rgb(65, 65, 65);letter-spacing:normal;orphans:2;text-align:left;text-indent:0px;text-transform:none;widows:2;word-spacing:0px;-webkit-text-stroke-width:0px;white-space:normal;background-color:rgb(255, 255, 255);text-decoration-thickness:initial;text-decoration-style:initial;text-decoration-color:initial;display:inline !important;float:none"> Deo Cabrera. <em>Cabrera/Instagram</em></span><em> </em></span></span></span></div><p>Lasallian queer influencer Deo Cabrera believes that confidence is not something you can build overnight.</p><p dir="ltr">Known for his fashion content, Cabrera started making TikTok videos of his school outfits around October 2022. With his growing number of followers on the app, he further expands the variety of his videos by advocating for genderless fashion, where everyone can wear whatever they want regardless of their sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression (SOGIE).</p><blockquote cite="https://www.tiktok.com/@deogelo_/video/7372512485963762949" class="tiktok-embed" data-video-id="7372512485963762949" id="v48879967269027770" style="max-width:605px;min-width:325px"><iframe name="__tt_embed__v48879967269027770" sandbox="allow-popups allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox allow-scripts allow-top-navigation allow-same-origin" src="https://www.tiktok.com/embed/v2/7372512485963762949?lang=en-US&amp;referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fnews-workbench-web.abs-cbn.com%2F%23%2Fworkspace%2Fmonitoring%3Fitem%3Durn%3Anewsml%3Anews-workbench-api.abs-cbn.com%3A2024-06-14T08%3A06%3A21.864608%3A35ff98de-d1c7-42a1-b6ae-19a59c3b6b6b%26action%3Dedit" style="width:100%;height:740px;display:block;visibility:unset"></iframe></blockquote><script async="" src="https://www.tiktok.com/embed.js"></script><p>The 22-year old queer content creator shared that it took time to develop the courage to finally put on the clothes he wanted for himself, and his school played a big part in that.</p><script async="" src="//www.instagram.com/embed.js"></script><p>Studying at De La Salle University, Cabrera said he is able to comfortably wear &quot;hubadera&quot; or revealing clothes like crop tops, mini skirts, and backless outfits without the fear of experiencing any kind of harassment.</p><p>&quot;Kasi dito talagang kahit papaano ay safe space na alam kong hindi ako mahaharass o maka-catcall,&quot; he said.</p><blockquote cite="https://www.tiktok.com/@deogelo_/video/7377350238194961670" class="tiktok-embed" data-video-id="7377350238194961670" id="v70923242126849790" style="max-width:605px;min-width:325px"><iframe name="__tt_embed__v70923242126849790" sandbox="allow-popups allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox allow-scripts allow-top-navigation allow-same-origin" src="https://www.tiktok.com/embed/v2/7377350238194961670?lang=en-US&amp;referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fnews-workbench-web.abs-cbn.com%2F%23%2Fworkspace%2Fmonitoring%3Fitem%3Durn%3Anewsml%3Anews-workbench-api.abs-cbn.com%3A2024-06-14T08%3A06%3A21.864608%3A35ff98de-d1c7-42a1-b6ae-19a59c3b6b6b%26action%3Dedit" style="width:100%;height:740px;display:block;visibility:unset"></iframe></blockquote><script async="" src="https://www.tiktok.com/embed.js"></script><div><strong>Coming out to his family</strong></div><p>Cabrera had his &quot;gay awakening&quot; when he started watching &quot;coming out videos&quot; of some queer YouTubers in 2016. He had that final realization in himself that he is gay when he felt that he could relate to the stories that they shared through their videos.</p><p>In the same year, he came out to his mother which became one of his core memories in life. </p><script async="" src="//www.instagram.com/embed.js"></script><p>&quot;Noong kakausapin ko na siya about it, parang bini-build up ko na, Ma, seryoso itong pag-uusapan natin, handa ka na ba?&#x27; Parang ganon,&quot; he said. </p><p>He continued while laughing, &quot;Tapos natawa siya na ang OA noong pagkakaamin ko sa isang bagay na hindi naman big deal para sa kanya&quot;”</p><p>Cabrera had his &quot;second coming out&quot; to his family when he officially started dressing up according to his SOGIE in front of them, and he&#x27;s grateful that they are very accepting and did not mind it at all. Right now, he has a healthy relationship with them, especially with his sisters, that he would sometimes borrow their clothes and wear them on the campus.</p><blockquote cite="https://www.tiktok.com/@deogelo_/video/7376585819731004677" class="tiktok-embed" data-video-id="7376585819731004677" id="v64581613889805990" style="max-width:605px;min-width:325px"><iframe name="__tt_embed__v64581613889805990" sandbox="allow-popups allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox allow-scripts allow-top-navigation allow-same-origin" src="https://www.tiktok.com/embed/v2/7376585819731004677?lang=en-US&amp;referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fnews-workbench-web.abs-cbn.com%2F%23%2Fworkspace%2Fmonitoring%3Fitem%3Durn%3Anewsml%3Anews-workbench-api.abs-cbn.com%3A2024-06-14T08%3A06%3A21.864608%3A35ff98de-d1c7-42a1-b6ae-19a59c3b6b6b%26action%3Dedit" style="width:100%;height:740px;display:block;visibility:unset"></iframe></blockquote><script async="" src="https://www.tiktok.com/embed.js"></script><div><strong>Dealing with double standards </strong></div><p>Being a content creator isn&#x27;t always sunshine and rainbows. Dealing with bashers and hate comments is one thing for them, but there is obviously an &quot;extra layer&quot; of hatred that queer influencers are receiving from some people.</p><p>&quot;Kasi parang aside sa mga usual na hate comments na parang ayaw nila &#x27;yung video mo, ayaw nila &#x27;yung personality mo, may extra layer [&#x27;yung bashing] kapag queer [content] creator ka. Ayaw nila &#x27;yung kung sino ka as a person. Parang ayaw nila na bakla ka, ayaw nila na ganito ka manamit, ayaw nila na ganyan ka kumilos,&quot; he said. </p><p>Just like any other new content creators, there were times in the past that Cabrera got so affected with the bashing he&#x27;s receiving online. But as time went by, he finally learned to take it lightly.</p><p>Now, whenever there are hate comments under his videos, he creatively uses them and makes content out of it. &quot;Ang usual kong ginagawa kapag may hate comment, gagawin ko siya ng transition video. Parang aasarin ko sila lalo, basically,&quot; he jokingly said. </p><blockquote cite="https://www.tiktok.com/@deogelo_/video/7373622158636961030" class="tiktok-embed" data-video-id="7373622158636961030" id="v45628254303770060" style="max-width:605px;min-width:325px"><iframe name="__tt_embed__v45628254303770060" sandbox="allow-popups allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox allow-scripts allow-top-navigation allow-same-origin" src="https://www.tiktok.com/embed/v2/7373622158636961030?lang=en-US&amp;referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fnews-workbench-web.abs-cbn.com%2F%23%2Fworkspace%2Fmonitoring%3Fitem%3Durn%3Anewsml%3Anews-workbench-api.abs-cbn.com%3A2024-06-14T08%3A06%3A21.864608%3A35ff98de-d1c7-42a1-b6ae-19a59c3b6b6b%26action%3Dedit" style="width:100%;height:740px;display:block;visibility:unset"></iframe></blockquote><script async="" src="https://www.tiktok.com/embed.js"></script><div><strong>On SOGIE Bill and other advocacies as a queer influencer</strong></div><p>Other than being a TikTok fashion content creator and an advocate for genderless clothing, Cabrera also uses his platform to discuss relevant issues surrounding the LGBTQIA+ community, including the petition to pass the SOGIE Bill.</p><p>He emphasized the importance of passing the bill to protect people, especially those who are part of the LGBTQIA+ community, from any form of discrimination.</p><p>Cabrera added that even if it seems that the Philippines is becoming more tolerant with regards to queer individuals, such gender-based violence and discrimination are still very rampant in our society.</p><p>&quot;Although mayroon tayong mga iba&#x27;t-ibang batas na nagpo-protect against different types of violence, hate crimes and all that, parang maganda pa rin talaga na magkaroon ng mas specific pa with regards to gender-based violence at discrimination,: he said.</p><blockquote cite="https://www.tiktok.com/@deogelo_/video/7364726770295115014" class="tiktok-embed" data-video-id="7364726770295115014" id="v53708104458307870" style="max-width:605px;min-width:325px"><iframe name="__tt_embed__v53708104458307870" sandbox="allow-popups allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox allow-scripts allow-top-navigation allow-same-origin" src="https://www.tiktok.com/embed/v2/7364726770295115014?lang=en-US&amp;referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fnews-workbench-web.abs-cbn.com%2F%23%2Fworkspace%2Fmonitoring%3Fitem%3Durn%3Anewsml%3Anews-workbench-api.abs-cbn.com%3A2024-06-14T08%3A06%3A21.864608%3A35ff98de-d1c7-42a1-b6ae-19a59c3b6b6b%26action%3Dedit" style="width:100%;height:763px;display:block;visibility:unset"></iframe></blockquote><script async="" src="https://www.tiktok.com/embed.js"></script><div><strong>Taking pride in oneself</strong></div><p>If Cabrera has something to say to his younger self—who is still struggling to figure things out, including who he really is and how he would express himself—it would be: &quot;Bakla, kaya mo yan!&quot;</p><p>He also reminded people, especially his fellow queers that are part of the community, to take their time to build the morale they need for themselves, as it isn&#x27;t earned in just a blink of an eye. </p><script async="" src="//www.instagram.com/embed.js"></script><p>Cabrera highlighted his favorite line in Maymay Entrata&#x27;s &quot;Amakabogera&quot; that became his self-affirmation—&quot;Kahit anong gawin mo, may masasabi sila.&quot;</p><p>&quot;I think ganon naman talaga. Kahit na wala kang ginagawa, talagang may sasabihin &#x27;yung mga tao. So i-build niyo &#x27;yung confidence niyo. Tapos kapag na-build niyo na siya, wag niyo nang hahayaan na makuha or masira pa ng ibang tao,&quot; he said.</p>

<p>Lasallian queer influencer Deo Cabrera believes that confidence is not something you can build overnight.</p>

Lasallian queer influencer Deo Cabrera believes that confidence is not something you can build overnight.

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Confidence is power: Deo Cabrera reflects on experiences as queer fashion influencer

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Published Jun 14, 2024 03:47 PM PHT

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