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K Brosas recalls how her lesbian daughter Tal was forcefully outed

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Clarence Roi Gillego

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<p>Singer-comedienne K Brosas recalled how her daughter Crystal was outed without her consent some years ago.  </p><p> K and Crystal, who now goes by the name Tal, were guests on Vice Ganda’s vlog where they shared about the latter’s coming out journey as a lesbian.  </p><div><br/></div><div><a href="https://youtu.be/jqkBZdl4qV0?si=uixrPWgwQVFHm23v"><iframe width="681" height="383" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/jqkBZdl4qV0" title="QUEERtuhan with K Brosas &amp; daughter Tal| VICE GANDA" frameBorder="0" allowfullscreen=""></iframe></a></div><div> </div><p>The comedienne shared that a man she previously dated, who was trusted by her daughter, disclosed Tal’s gender identity. The man’s identity was not revealed in the vlog. </p><p> “Chinika niya [Tal], siguro hindi niya masabi nang rekta pa,” she said. “At dahil alam niya na siguro mahal na mahal ako ng lalaki that time. Tapos &#x27;yung atensyon nung lalaki nasa kanya din... kasi nga super effort para makuha ‘yung loob ko &#x27;di ba. So, in secrecy, chinika niya doon sa lalaki. ‘Yung lalaki chinika sa lahat ng friends (niya), hindi chinika sa akin.” </p><p> K said she was shocked when she found out from a friend that her daughter’s truth was already spread out. </p><p> “‘Yung kaniyang friend na friend din natin, juicy, chumika sa akin ng kaswal. ‘Balita ko tomboy anak mo.’ Alam mo ‘yung nanginginig ‘yung luha ko na nanggigigil ako,” she said.  </p><p> “Although ‘yung friend nating ‘yun, hindi niya alam, kaswal lang. ‘Yung pagkakasabi lang niya na, ‘Ay my God! I’m so happy for you na tomboy pala ang anak mo, na tanggap mo.&#x27; Bakit ganon? Hindi ito ‘yung scenario (na) nasa utak ko,” she added.  </p><p> Tal said it was comfortable sharing the truth with the guy as they were close enough and they shared the same interest. </p><p> “Nakuha kasi niya ang loob ko kasi mabait siya eh. Kasi scuba diver din ako and then scuba driver siya, parang nanghingi ako ng advice,” Tal said. </p><div> </div><div><a href="https://www.abs-cbn.com/entertainment/07/15/20/k-brosas-supports-daughter-crystal-who-came-out-as-a-lesbian"><strong>READ: K Brosas supports daughter Crystal, who came out as a lesbian</strong></a></div><div><br/></div><p> K admitted that she knew from the start that her daughter had something to tell her, but she never forced her.</p><p>  “Pero alam ko na,” she clarified. “Bilang nanay, nararamdaman ko na. Naghihintay lang ako na ‘ah magsasabi ‘to,’ so naghihintay lang ako ng cue niya.” </p><p> When K confronted Tal, the latter burst into tears.</p><p> “Sabi ko ganito: nalaman ko na. Alam ko, it’s your story to tell kaso ayoko nang makarating sa&#x27;yo [mula] sa ibang tao. Ako na magsasabi sayo [kung] paano nakarating sa akin. Pero gusto kong malaman mo na alam ko na at bago ka pa magsalita, tanggap na tanggap kita mula puyo hanggang talampakan,” she said. </p><p> For Tal, it felt like a betrayal that she was forcefully outed.  </p><p> “‘Yun kasi ‘yung pinaka parang betrayal sa sarili mo ‘pag may nag-out sa&#x27;yo, hindi mo na own ‘yun eh. Hindi ko man lang na-own yun on my own time,” Tal said.  </p><p> Despite what happened, Tal chose to look at the brighter side of things. </p><p> “At the same time, it was also a blessing in disguise, kasi baka ‘pag tumagal, baka until now hindi pa rin ako out,” Tal said. </p><p> Meanwhile, Vice also shared his opinion on the matter, emphasizing not everyone’s coming out stories end up positively. </p><p> “Good thing maganda ‘yung effect,” Vice said. “Hindi kasi lahat ng ganyang pangyayari, nagiging maganda yung kinahihinatnan di ba? That’s why we have to respect everyone’s timing.&quot;</p><p> Vice underscored that those who choose to stay in the closet should not be blamed for not coming out yet.  </p><p>“There’s so many reasons why that person is being embraced by fear,” he said. “Andaming factors eh. May mga takot na nagsisimula sa loob ng bahay, may mga takot na dinudulot ng eskwelahan, may mga takot na dinudulot ng kalsada. Kaya kailangan nating i-respeto ‘yun kasi hindi niyo alam kung anong tumatakbo sa isip nila. At pag pwinersa mo ‘yun, masisira ‘yung prosesong ‘yun.” </p><p> K, on the other hand, emphasized that acceptance should begin at home. </p><p> “Importante talagang magsimula sa bahay, sa pamilya,” she said. “Kasi ‘pag nagkaroon ka ng support sa pamilya mo, medyo ma-overcome mo na ‘yung ibang tao sa labas eh. Dapat magulang mo, mga kapatid mo, dapat tanggapin ka. Ako ha, ako lang ‘to, being a progressive mom.” </p><p> In 2020, K publicly expressed her support for her daughter who came out to the world through a video with her. </p>

<p>K Brosas recalls how painful it was for a mom to know that her daughter was outed without permission.</p>

K Brosas recalls how painful it was for a mom to know that her daughter was outed without permission.