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Jane, JM and more celebrities pass on their best love advice from experience

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Liezel Dela Cruz

If love came with a manual or even a warning label, relationships would probably be a lot less complicated. But since real life isn’t a rom-com with a script, most of us just learn through trial and error. There&#x27;s definitely no guarantee that your heart won’t get a little bruised along the way. Still, it helps to hear wisdom from people who’ve gone through their own romantic highs and lows. In this feature, celebrities share the best love advice they’ve picked up from experience. Consider this your mini guide to matters of the heart, straight from people who’ve lived through the feels. For Nyoy Volante, there’s no need for grand gestures or over-the-top moves to win someone over, “Huwag magpapasikat, ‘yung totoo lang.&quot;  He believes flashy acts don’t always work because, in the end, authenticity is way more attractive. Learning to love someone fully also means embracing their imperfections. That’s what ex-&quot;<a href="https://www.abs-cbn.com/entertainment/studios/tv/pinoy-big-brother-collab-v2" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">PBB Collab 2.0</a>&quot; housemate Sofia Pablo learned from her mom&#x27;s own advice, &quot;Kapag mahal mo &#x27;yung tao, tanggap mo siya nang buong-buo at willing kayo na mag-improve together.&quot; Being in love is cute and all, but Jed Madela reminds us not to disappear into the relationship. It&#x27;s easy to focus on someone 24/7 and forget about our own needs, which, he says, compromises balance in a relationship. &quot;Leave something for yourself para may ibibigay ka din.&quot; Vina Morales&#x27; mantra is that love starts with becoming your best self, &quot;You have to be a better person first, so that &#x27;yung relationship will fall into place.&quot; She also encourages young people to listen to their parents’ advice. And if it hurts more than it heals, maybe it’s time to release it and trust the process. &quot;Kapag hindi talaga para sa&#x27;yo, huwag ipilit kasi masasaktan ka lang. So, just let it go and let God.&quot; Jane Oineza understands that loving someone is a great feeling, but not if you’re slowly losing yourself in the process. “Magmahal nang buo but also don&#x27;t forget to love yourself din kasi minsan love tayo nang love tapos nababawasan na pala &#x27;yung sa atin,&quot; she muses. That same message of self-love resonates with Miggy Jimenez, who believes you have to put yourself first before you can truly show up for someone else. According to &quot;<a href="https://www.abs-cbn.com/entertainment/studios/tv/your-face-sounds-familiar" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Your Face Sounds Familiar</a>&quot; performer Jason Dy, the real relationship hack is communication. &quot;Kailangan open kayo sa isa&#x27;t isa. Kailangan napag-uusapan n&#x27;yo lahat para there&#x27;s no taboo topic.&quot; And definitely, no sleeping while you’re still mad at each other, &quot;I-resolve n&#x27;yo muna &#x27;yung differences n&#x27;yo para the next day, okay na kayo.&quot; &quot;<a href="https://www.abs-cbn.com/entertainment/studios/tv/what-lies-beneath" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">What Lies Beneath</a>&quot; actor JM De Guzman keeps his love tip short and sweet—&quot;Love yourself first before loving others.&quot; Meanwhile, Bong Gonzales&#x27; biggest takeaway on romance would have to be &quot;huwag n&#x27;yong pipilitin ang relationship, kusa &#x27;yang dadating....kung para sa inyo.&quot; Quoting the Bible, Kat Galang relates that love is patient. &quot;Hindi porke&#x27;t hindi ka natuwa sa ginawa niya, or you felt disappointed or frustrated, it&#x27;s all part of the relationship. So, you really have to give time for the person to have character development kung makakapaghintay ka.&quot; But if there’s no growth, she warns, that could already be a red flag. Even as a teen with relatively little relationship experience, Esang De Torres already shows wisdom about what makes love work. She&#x27;s aware that couples should grow together while still nurturing their own individual passions. Shared activities help strengthen the bond, but personal growth keeps the relationship healthy. And when it comes to dealing with misunderstanding, she believes in this golden rule: “It’s never ‘you versus me.’ It’s supposed to be ‘you and me’ versus the problem.” Meanwhile, Robi Domingo jokes that maybe skip the laptop on the first date. It sounds funny, but it also makes sense—love isn’t about big, expensive gifts, especially when you’re just getting to know each other. If love had a main character skill, The Voice USA Season 26 Champion and &quot;Tawag Ng Tanghalan&quot; alum Sofronio Vasquez says it would be listening, not just to reply, but to really understand. &quot;Listen because you want to learn and listen because you want to know what&#x27;s happening,&quot; he explains.  Heartbreak tends to come with life lessons, and Kobie Brown picked up one he now swears by: love yourself first before giving your heart to someone else. Serving a very Gen Z reality check, &quot;<a href="https://www.abs-cbn.com/entertainment/studios/tv/pinoy-big-brother-collab-v2" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">PBB Collab 2.0</a>&quot; ex-housemate Eliza Borromeo says the real foundation of love is self-respect. &quot;Kasi once po na nawalan kayo ng respeto sa sarili, maaabuso po kayo. At saka kailangan po talaga na mahalin mo &#x27;yung sarili mo para mas mahalin mo rin &#x27;yung ibang tao na nakapaligid sa&#x27;yo, at saka magtiwala.&quot; And if you spot a red flag, it’s okay to walk away. “Bounce na, okay?” Love may not come with step-by-step instructions, but at least we’ve got these reminders. Happy Valentine&#x27;s Day, Kapamilya!