Daven Tamayo

Filipino family turns father’s death in LA into call for senior safety awareness

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ABS-CBN News

LOS ANGELES — For Filipino families everywhere, a grocery run is one of the most ordinary parts of life. Parents and grandparents go out to buy food, pick up familiar ingredients, carry bags to their cars, and return home to the people waiting for them. It is routine. It is simple. It is something families rarely think twice about.  For 82-year-old Nilo Ortiz, that ordinary errand became the last time his family would expect him home.According to his family, Ortiz had gone to a parking lot in Los Angeles when an alleged theft-related incident occurred. The matter is now part of an ongoing criminal case in the United States. This week, his widow is expected to take the witness stand and relive one of the most painful days of her life: the day she lost the man she had loved for more than 55 years. For their only daughter, Rhiza Pascua, the moment is almost unbearable. Pascua, a Filipino live-events executive, is used to pressure, responsibility, and crisis. But nothing in her professional life prepared her for the sudden loss of her father, a man she describes not as a case, not as a headline, but simply as “Dad.” “My father, Nilo Ortiz, was not a headline,” Pascua wrote in a personal account shared by the family. “He was a husband of 55 years. A father, a grandfather, and the sort of man who never met a stranger.” Those who knew Nilo remember him as warm, generous, and deeply present. He remembered birthdays. He offered help before anyone asked. He never walked away from a conversation without leaving someone smiling. To the public, his name may now be connected to a court proceeding. To his family, he was the center of a life that can never be replaced. Since his death, Pascua says their family’s life has been divided into two painful chapters: before and after. Before, her mother had the husband she built a life with for more than half a century. Today, she sleeps alone. Before, Pascua’s children had a grandfather they could call, visit, laugh with, and play games with. Today, they are left with memories. Before, their family gathered around a man whose presence made everyone feel safe. Today, there is an empty chair that can never be filled. As the criminal case continues, Pascua says her family respects the role of the court in determining responsibility for the incident. But outside the courtroom, she hopes her father’s story becomes a wider reminder for Filipino families, community spaces, and public establishments everywhere. Her message is not about blame. It is about awareness. It is about prevention. It is about asking how families and communities can better protect elderly loved ones in the ordinary places they visit every day. For Pascua, the loss of her father has made one painful truth impossible to ignore: seniors often move through public spaces with quiet vulnerability. They go to groceries, markets, churches, pharmacies, parking lots, and community stores. They walk more slowly. They may carry bags. They may be alone. They may trust that the spaces around them are safe. And because of that, they deserve more attention, more awareness, and more protection.The concern is especially urgent for Filipino communities in Los Angeles, Metro Manila, and among OFWs abroad, where many families know the anxiety of having elderly parents or grandparents living independently, running errands alone, or insisting they can still do everything themselves. Every Filipino family knows someone like Nilo Ortiz. A lolo who still drives himself to the grocery. A lola who still goes to the market alone. A parent who does not want to bother anyone for help. An uncle or auntie who says, “Sandali lang ako,” and leaves the house for a simple errand. For most families, they come home. Pascua’s father did not. Since then, she has lived with grief, anxiety, fear, panic, and the constant weight of what her family lost. In her impact statement, Pascua described the death of her father as a tragedy that shattered the foundation of their family and left lasting emotional, psychological, and practical burdens that they continue to carry every day.Her mother is now grieving the loss of her husband of 55 years. Her children are grieving the loss of a grandfather. Pascua herself is carrying the responsibilities of being a daughter, mother, professional, and advocate while still processing a loss that changed the course of their lives. What hurts most, she says, is the thought of what her father should still be doing. He should still be enjoying his senior years. He should still be traveling with his wife. He should still be celebrating milestones with his family. He should still be playing Uno with his grandchildren. Instead, his family is preparing for testimony, court proceedings, and the painful work of speaking publicly about a private grief. But Pascua says they continue to speak because Nilo’s life mattered. They speak because senior safety matters. They speak because no family should have to receive a call that turns an ordinary errand into a permanent goodbye. And they speak because what happened to their family has become a painful reminder that elderly people need stronger protection in the everyday spaces where they live, shop, wait, walk, and gather. For Pascua, that means encouraging families to check in more often with elderly loved ones. It means reminding seniors to stay alert in parking lots and public spaces. It means asking community establishments to be more mindful of vulnerable customers. It means promoting emergency readiness, visible safety awareness, faster response, and compassion when tragedy strikes. Most of all, it means refusing to let Nilo Ortiz be remembered only by what happened to him. He was a husband. A father. A grandfather. A loyal member of a Filipino family. A kind man whose life was full of people who loved him.  As his widow prepares to testify and the criminal case continues in Los Angeles, Pascua hopes the Filipino community will remember her father not as a case number, but as a man who should have come home. He went out for groceries. He should have returned to his family. He did not. Now, his daughter is asking the question many families only ask after it is too late: Are we doing enough to keep our seniors safe?

According to his family, Ortiz had gone to a parking lot in Los Angeles when an alleged theft-related incident occurred.

According to his family, Ortiz had gone to a parking lot in Los Angeles when an alleged theft-related incident occurred.